10 Sneaky ways moms find solitude

I have a confession: I sometimes create ridiculous distractions to safely occupy my children long enough to buy me 10 measly minutes alone. I suspect that all moms – from June Cleaver to Peggy Bundy – are guilty of this too.

If you are like me then you have also likely attempted one of these bamboozling techniques to score a few minutes of you time.

1) Fake cramps
No one wants to be in the same room with a person who thinks she might shoot lava from her south end. This one works like a charm, but be careful because if you begin to suffer from diarrhea-like cramps everyday then your cover will be blown.

2) Bribery
Popsicles or chocolate are usual payment at my house. Tell the kids to play quietly and the sugary loot can be theirs. When that fails, because it usually does, try number three.

3) Wild Goose Chase
Did you hear that? That sounded like a SNIPE! Wait…shhh…listen! Here take this flashlight and go into your room and when you hear the snipe start flashing the light like crazy!

4) Caillou
I hate that sniveling little turd and my kids know it. This is a tricky card to play because you might get stuck watching it too. But, if you are lucky then you can earn yourself 30 beautiful minutes of quiet time.

5) Drive
Sure, you aren’t really alone, but your kids can’t go anywhere since they are strapped into seats. If they complain loud enough then you can turn up the radio and sing along in that embarrassing way that only a Mom can pull off until they quiet down.

6) Lost and Found
Did junior lose a toy and ask you to find it? Great! Take forever looking for it. Try scavenging through the attic or the garage, maybe even the basement. Once you find it, feign concern and keep looking. Also, get the kids in on the hunt and send them looking in the wrong direction.

7) Nap Time
This is the holy grail of alone time for me. I have two high-energy boys who are apparently allergic to the concept of napping. Getting them both to lull off for an hour at the same time would be a feat of serendipity that I totally lack.

8) Timeout
No, not for your kids. Put yourself in time out! The kids will find this absurd and will likely mimic whatever the timeout routine is at your house. For us it generally means that the unlucky participant must sit in a chair until the oven timer dings. That’s 3 minutes of sitting! Woo hoo!

9) Bait Your Partner
My husband gets super annoyed when I do this one. I tell him to watch the kids for two seconds while I just go to the laundry room to toss in a load of towels. Then 20 minutes later I return having to rescue him from child inspired shenanigans.

10) Crowd Sourcing
When my four year-old is driving me bonkers I load him up in the car and take him to the park to join the local pack of wild kids. As long as he isn’t in physical danger and stays within my view then I’m off duty for a bit while my kid learns how to socialize with other hooligans.


Sarah Cottrell

About Sarah Cottrell

Maine-based writer Sarah Cottrell is the voice behind Housewife Plus at the Bangor Daily News and is a regular contributor to Disney’s Babble and Momtastic. She is a co-author in six books including I Still Just Want To Pee Alone from the New York Times Bestselling series. Sarah’s work has also been highlighted and featured by SELF Magazine, National Public Radio, Washington Post, and VICE Tonic.