7 Lessons of motherhood

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Even newspaper reporters have fans and I am a fan of ROOTED IN ME writer Natalie Feulner. Her work covers issues that as a mother I care deeply about. Natalie brings attention to the rise in the use of cloth diapers, safety in children’s toys, and public policy that directly affects families right here in Maine. I am honored that she has agreed to guest post here on Housewife Plus for all you!

If you are just tuning in, the House Guest series introduces emerging and established voices in the mom blogger world to the Housewife Plus audience. The writers featured here share their stories about parenting, marriage, and life in general. They are sometimes serious, other times funny, but always real.

By Natalie Feulner

Hey there, Housewife Plus fans! I’m Natalie and I blog about my misadventures in Maine and motherhood at Rooted In ME.

My blog started before I found out I was expecting and morphed from a place to record my evolution into a Mainer, to one about becoming “mom.” At one year, one week and two days into my journey, I’m far from an expert. But, I have learned that it takes surviving a few distinct “experiences” to drop the “new” in my title and just be “mom.”

1. You’re no longer a new mom: When you reach the end of your rope and say “I just can’t possibly do {input any task, emotion, etc. here} more,” and then you realize there’s actually more rope and you can and will.

2. You’re not longer a new mom if you know: A little bodily fluid never hurt anyone. But green body fluid is always a bad sign no mater where it’s coming from.

3. You’re no longer a new mom when you realize: As they age, babies don’t get harder or easier, the struggles are just different.

4. And with that: Realizing that everything is a phase — the bad (teeth, throwing food on the floor, hating baths, screaming in the car) and the good (2+ hour naps, sleeping through the night, giggling at the slightest thing.)

5. You’re no longer a new mom if you admit: Almost everything is breakable if dropped from a high enough vantage point, even stuffed animals have eyeballs that crack.

6. You’re no longer a new mom if you give up: On baby books. Everything I’ve ever “learned” about my child, she taught me.

7. Because moms know something that can’t be taught in a book: That motherhood, after the newness wears off, is even sweeter. There’s more slobbery kisses, more snuggles, more joy in every single day.

“When I had my first baby this winter (who I affectionately refer to as The Bug on this blog) many well-meaning friends and family assumed it meant I was settling down and growing some roots. After five states in five years, it would seem so, but of course only time will tell.

In the meantime, I’m loving my role as a new mom, working as a family reporter and living in Maine. I’m up for putting down roots where my life takes me and for now, that means exploring everything this beautiful state has to offer.

Rooted in ME is a recording of my family’s time here in Maine, my journey as a new mother and all things family. Send me your blog post ideas, family stories and thoughts at nfeulner@bangordailynews.com.

“All things must come to the soul from its roots, from where it is planted.” — Saint Teresa of Avila”
Sarah Cottrell

About Sarah Cottrell

Maine-based writer Sarah Cottrell is the voice behind Housewife Plus at the Bangor Daily News and is a regular contributor to Disney’s Babble and Momtastic. She is a co-author in six books including I Still Just Want To Pee Alone from the New York Times Bestselling series. Sarah’s work has also been highlighted and featured by SELF Magazine, National Public Radio, Washington Post, and VICE Tonic.